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Podcast Ep. 3: Let’s Talk About Sex, Ba-by with Wesley Fenza
“I think the most important thing in relationships is you’re always on the same team.” Table of Contents (times are approximate): 0:00 Intro 2:55 possessive language 4:15 designer relationships 5:00 labels as a means of avoiding uncomfortable conversations 6:10 what the law says about husbands and wives 8:15 why everybody needs a prenuptial agreement 9:25 how to articulate stuff (for the inarticulate)…
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Podcast Ep. 2.4: Tribal Healing and the Art of Attunement with Elodes
“IDENTITY ANARCHY” Table of Contents for Part 4 (times are approximate): 0:00 facilitating safety 31:50 identity anarchy 37:55 reflections 43:35 key elements for healing in group settings Find Elodes on X at @ElodesNL and on Substack at elodes.substack.com
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GUEST POST: Birthday Present (by Wesley Fenza)
[This was Wes’s birthday present to me and he said I could post it here. You can find him on X at @wfenza and read his other (admittedly less erotic) writings at livingwithinreason.substack.com or listen to his podcast at mindkiller.substack.com. If you think this (or my true story about him, Date) is hot and would…
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Podcast Ep. 2.3: Tribal Healing and the Art of Attunement with Elodes
“What you don’t reveal, others feel.” Table of Contents for Part 3 (times are approximate): 0:00 intergender anger space 14:25 witnessing/embracing ritual and processing 23:05 personal anger space 32:40 healing as a physical process 36:00 party temple space 51:30 other spaces 54:05 brotherhood initiation ritual 55:40 self-reinforcing negative patterns 1:14:55 attunement to the group Find…
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Podcast Ep. 2.2: Tribal Healing and the Art of Attunement with Elodes
“It resonated with so many people that sex had always been quite fast, you know — a little too much, a little too fast, maybe a little too soon — and that so few of us have ever seen it happen in the way that it should happen, rightly, or experience that.” Table of Contents…
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Date
I’ve been wanting to write you a story for ages, but honestly, I haven’t been able to come up with anything that’s as mind-blowingly hot as the date we went on the last time I saw you. So you already know this story, from your own perspective, because you were there. But here it is…
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Podcast Ep. 2.1: Tribal Healing and the Art of Atunement with Elodes (in which Elodes talks for 4.5 hours about the best retreat of his life so far)
“Trauma that happened in group settings can only be healed in group settings.” Table of Contents for Part 1 (times are approximate): 3:45 intro to the retreat 6:35 healing in tribes and group trauma 13:38 men’s spaces 17:54 intention and efficacy of the modalities 21:00 judgement space 25:00 women-centered vs men-centered 27:00 getting into our fire energy 30:00 adjusting to intimacy 32:50 belly-to-belly work…
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Podcast Ep. 1: The Emotional Intimacy to Physical Intimacy Pipeline with Michelle Akin
“The key to getting fucked is being honest about my emotions.” In which we talk about: being vulnerable, being a mess for each other, feeling safe, having regular meetings, intimacy through cuddling, finding new adventures to regain that New Relationship Energy, allowing each other to blow each other’s minds, actively loving each other, taking risks,…
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How My Quirks and “Weaknesses” Benefit My Sex Coaching Clients (and Myself)
Part 1: Submissiveness This is a multi-part series in which I explore various characteristics of mine that I have at times seen as weaknesses, or feared that others might see as weaknesses, in a sex coach. One of the pillars in my teaching/coaching philosophy is that we all have weaknesses, but those weaknesses are exactly…
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Camp Fantasy
I see you across a field at Vibecamp and go to say hi. You’re surrounded and in conversation with several people so I just give you an extra long hug and move on. But we keep seeing each other around and finding moments to make eye contact or sit very close on a picnic table…